Roy Graff
Roy Graff is a counsellor, relationship coach, educator and workshop facilitator based in London, UK. His education work focuses on unlearning limiting beliefs around traditional monogamous relationships, gender roles and self-worth. Roy has been openly practicing polyamory for over 10 years and works predominantly with individuals and partnered people who are on a journey of self-discovery and exploration of multigamy (non-monogamy).
Posts by Roy Graff (5)
Jealousy part 2: The place between Love and Fear
Our emotional response can be about socialized expectations but that does not mean that it is easy to untangle these. Those expectations ultimately lead to constrained core beliefs about ourselves. Our insecurities and past experiences can also manifest as jealous reactions.
Jealousy part 1: How to understand our jealousy?
Do you believe jealousy is an integral part of human nature? Or is it an emotional reaction to certain traumas, something that we can ultimately control? I believe it can be a little bit of both.
Why Shame LESS Society Experiences Are Priceless—And Worth Every Euro
Our Events Are More Than Just a Night Out—They’re an Immersive Journey of Art, Connection, and Ethical Hedonism
What is compersion and can I be polyamorous without it?
I don’t remember when or where I read first about compersion. But I liked how the word sounded and it made sense to me immediately. I was also surprised that there was not already a word to describe that warm, uplifting feeling that I get when my partner returns all giddy and relaxed from her date, or is excitedly getting ready to go out on one. Compersion is not only applicable to polyamory, and can be experienced with friends, colleagues, family and even with strangers.
Advice for couples who wish to open their relationship
As a relationship coach, I guide couples through the complexities of polyamory, tackling challenges, deep-seated conflicts, and fears. Rarely do couples consult me at the start of their non-monogamous journey, but it happens.