Sensual Soirée Etiquette

S+ events can be a lot of fun, but it's important to remember that they also require a certain amount of education, etiquette and consideration for other participants. Whether you're a seasoned pro or a first-timer, here are some tips to help you navigate our upcoming events with ease and confidence.

Before the Soirée:

Familiarize yourself with the rules of the event organizers and follow them closely. community guidelines
If you're nervous or unsure about attending, ask yourself if this type of event is right for you, and if so, what your boundaries and expectations are.
If you're attending with a partner or friends, discuss your boundaries and expectations beforehand to avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
We highly recommend to get tested for STDs to ensure safety of all. Please do not participate with a positive test. STD Testing in Berlin (a guide for Lisbon will follow soon)
Chose your outfit wisely - a dresscode violation is often seen as disrespect towards organizers and other participants and may lead to being denied access to the event. Dresscode inspiration

At the Soirée:

Consent is key: always ask for consent before engaging in any activities with other participants. A clear "yes" is necessary before any physical activity takes place, and a "no" should always be respected. Remember that a maybe or hesitation is also a "no", so don't push for anything that other participants are not comfortable with. Consider using a consent model, which involves asking three questions: "Are you ready?", "Are you willing?", and "Do you have any boundaries or limits?” And always remember: “NO” is a full sentence.
If it's your first time attending a s+ event, don't be afraid to let us and other participants know. They may be able to offer guidance or support.
Communication is crucial: communicate your own boundaries and limits clearly to others, and respect the boundaries of all participants. Avoid making judgments or negative comments about others' kinks or preferences, and be aware of your surroundings and any potential safety concerns. Pay attention to other participants' body language and verbal cues, and be sure to communicate your own desires and needs as well.
Practice good hygiene: shower and groom yourself before attending and consider bringing alcohol-free wipes or other personal hygiene products. Bring your own props and any other necessary protection, and ensure to dispose of any used equipment properly.
If you have any questions or concerns, don't hesitate to ask the organizers or the awareness team for clarification.
Be respectful of others: treat other participants with respect and kindness, and avoid making assumptions about their desires or preferences. Remember that everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another.
Enjoy yourself, but stay safe: remember that s+ parties are about having fun and exploring connections, but safety should always come first. Avoid getting too intoxicated and impairing your judgment or ability to communicate. Use protection and communicate clearly with your partners to ensure a safe and enjoyable experiencefor everyone involved.

During the Soirée:

Clean up after yourself and dispose of any used equipment properly.
Consider giving feedback to the event organizers (a link will be provided 7 days after the Soirée)
Remember to respect the privacy of all participants. Don't share any personal information or stories on social media without explicit permission. Avoid gossip or spreading rumors about others, and show respect for everyone's privacy and boundaries.
After the event, consider getting tested for STIs and contacting the event organizers or anyone you interacted with if you test positive.

After the Soirée:

Clean up after yourself and dispose of any used equipment properly.
Show appreciation and respect to the organizers and hosts of the event.
If you had a positive experience, consider giving feedback to the event organizer.
Remember to keep the event confidential and don't share any personal information or stories on social media without explicit permission.

Some additional tips and questions to consider:

Consider bringing alcohol-free drinks or personal hygiene products.
Ask the event organizers about the location, dress code, and any specific rules or guidelines.
Bring your own condoms, lube, and any other necessary protection. Consider bringing your own toys if you have any specific preferences or needs.
If you're attending with a partner or friends, discuss your boundaries and expectations beforehand to avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
If it's your first time attending a sex-positive event, don't be afraid to let others know. They may be able to offer guidance or support.
If you're blindfolded, be sure to have a trusted person with you to help you navigate and make decisions about who can touch you.
Avoid gossip or spreading rumors about others, and show respect for everyone's privacy and boundaries.
If you have any questions or concerns during the event, don't hesitate to ask the awareness team for help or clarification.
After the event, consider getting tested for STIs and contacting the event organizers or anyone you interacted with if you test positive.

We are looking forward to host you at our upcoming event

Stay safe & enjoy life!

Your Shame LESS team